Ready to stop having casual connections? Ditch the time consuming work and find someone compatible who shares your goals.
Save hours per month scrolling dating apps
Only sourced high-quality matches
Personalized coaching throughout the process
Private, confidential, and highly personalized experience
The trusted choice to find your match
Initial onboarding interviews are usually
carried out within 24-48 hours
Our experienced team of matchmakers ensure you feel genuinely understood and supported throughout the process.
Simply fill out the form and we will schedule an initial onboarding call within 24–48 hours Monday to Friday.
Through careful listening and thoughtful screening your match maker will understand what you’re looking for so you get curated introductions.
You will go on first dates with coaching and support from our team. Many of our first dates roll onto second dates as the match quality is established before we introduce you.
Feel excited instead of exhausted about dating and relationships again! Build real connections from your matches.
We don’t just provide introductions, we support you throughout the entire process of finding, matching and meeting the right person.
Working with us is the better way to find someone:
High-quality intentional introductions
Personalized coaching & support
Private & confidential service
Human recruiting, vetting, screening
Save time with better quality matches
Reduced dating fatigue and emotional burnout
If you’re ready to finally feel hopeful about dating again, contact our team today to get started.
Find a match
Estimated hours of your time saved per month
In poor quality dates
Average curated introductions
First dates that turn into second dates
With decades of experience in high quality match making we’re ready to find your perfect person.
First date with When We First and it was perfection
First date with When We First and it was absolute perfection. We had so much in common we were laughing and talking the whole time. He was such an amazing person and we already have our second date planned. I don’t think I’ve ever been on a date with someone who has so much in common with me.
Executives and busy professionals are choosing us for a more intentional way to date.
Human-first matchmaking led by real matchmakers
Personalized onboarding interviews focused on values, goals, and lifestyle
Intentional relationship-focused dating
Curated introductions based on compatibility and emotional alignment
Coaching and emotional support included throughout the process
Hybrid experience combining matchmaking + technology
Privacy-first dating experience
Designed for busy professionals with limited time
Quality over quantity approach
Matchmakers actively recruit, screen, and vet introductions
If you’re ready for a serious relationship and want a more thoughtful, personalized, and emotionally supportive dating experience we are for you.
We’re not just another dating app.
Singles who are in their 30s to 60s
Individuals who work long hours
Executives, entrepreneurs, professionals
Singles seeking meaningful long term relationships
Individuals who value privacy and discretion
Individuals newly single after divorce or long term relationships
Clients who have already tried dating apps, singles groups etc
Singles looking for more personalized support, accountability, coaching
If this sounds like you then get in contact with our team today and let’s start your journey to intentional dating.
You’re looking for transactional relationships
Looking to date for short-term reasons
Looking for just a dating app
Not willing to take feedback and develop yourself
Human experience meets technology in the personalized match making space.
When We First is female founded brand by career matchmakers Sandra Hatton and Mariel Filippone in 2023.
Built around the belief that dating should feel more intentional, supported, and human, When We First was the first dating platform to combine traditional personalized matchmaking, modern technology, real human coaching support, and app-based dating options all within one ecosystem.
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I’m exhausted by dating apps. How is this actually different?
Many clients come to us after feeling burned out by endless swiping, superficial conversations, and people who aren’t serious about relationships. Our clients have described the service as a “refreshing alternative to dating apps” because the experience is built around intentional introductions, compatibility, and real human support not endless scrolling. Instead of spending hours searching, you’re guided through a more thoughtful and personalized process.
I was worried matchmaking would feel awkward or outdated.
This is a common question and completely understandable. Our clients often say how modern, supportive, and comfortable the experience felt. Many describe the process as "thoughtful," "professional," and "personalized," with a strong balance of human connection and modern technology. Feel free to review our 5-star Trustpilot reviews to see it in their own words.
How do I know you’ll actually understand what I’m looking for?
This is one of the biggest concerns people have before joining - especially after years of feeling misunderstood on apps. Clients consistently mention that they felt “heard,” “understood,” and genuinely listened to throughout the process. Every relationship journey starts with an in-depth conversation around your values, goals, lifestyle, and relationship intentions so introductions are built around real compatibility, not just surface-level attraction.
Is this service private? I don't want a public dating profile?
Yes! Our service is completely private and confidential so your profile won't appear publically.
How much does it cost?
We will take you through the range of service options and pricing on your on-boarding interview call. Simply fill out the form and we will be in touch.
Our match making team are ready to answer your call and support you.
